Picture your wife when she was 2 years old: she requires your love, affirmation & protection. Nothing has changed.
Pride, pennies and petticoats: will bring down any pastor. Stay open and real (but be careful to whom you confide. Don’t share intimate details with other members of the opposite sex.)
Hebrews 2:18 – Christ was tempted in every area we are tempted. He was absolutely holy and resisted successfully. Emulate Him.
The hardest thing with accountability is asking a straight question. Most men, when asked a straight question, will not lie.
As with sugar, fat & alcohol, so also with sexual immorality: if you feed on it, you feed the need. If you starve it, you half it.
Pornography is unhealthy because it feeds unhealthy fantasies. “The girls who will do that, will not strengthen your marriage.”
What impact would that affair cause? Pain to your wife and loss of faith/salvation of your children. It’s just not worth it.
What areas of my life need to change?
How can I help others?
What do I have to put in place to guard my heart?
On an unrelated matter, I’ve just been confronted by a dear Christian brother, about my METTLE blog being too confrontational. I’ve been hearing this a bit recently, and I do want to change. I don’t want to compromise on Truth, but I want to speak the Truth in Love, not with a 4×2. I’m allowed my opinions, but how do I bring them without being unnecessarily offensive? For example, I’ve recently posted against Psychotropic drugs. Now I don’t actually hold a strong opinion against, them, merely an intellectual assent to the negative view of them. But I unnecessarily antagonised another Christian brother over it. That was not my intent. I apologise unreservedly.